This month in our talks about family, one big topic is kids and parenting. It’s never been easy to be a parent, and it’s always going to be a big responsibility. But over the years I’ve learned from parents, and had my own experiences that have helped me. Here are some of my tips.
1-you raise your children, but ultimately they make their own decisions. You do the best you can to raise them and then you do have to let them loose on the world and trust that you’ve raised them the best you can.
2-always teach good values. To some families this does mean raising your children to know and hopefully believe a particular faith, but to all families this means teaching your kids how to treat others right and respect themselves.
3-practice what you preach. If you want your kids to learn good habits and how to behave around others, you have to show them how to do it. The first people your kids witness in regards to sex and romantic relationships, communicating with each other, and attitude towards life, is you.
4-don’t hide everything. Your kids have to learn the realities of life sometime, and it’s better if they do it in a safe environment with you. This doesn’t mean that you should balance your checkbook in their presence every month when you know it won’t balance or you should fight over everything things in front of them. But let’s face it-they often see, hear and pick up on more than you think.
5-get support. You’re not alone in this parenting thing-you’ve got a whole community of people around you. You should have family and friends around you to help you as well as the local school systems, teachers and babysitters who can help you raise your kids.
We all have our own approaches and styles. No one raises any kid the same, which is appropriate because no two kids are ever the same. You don’t have to do the same thing as your neighbor, but these key points should be part of your parenting package.