Our theme this month is gentleness. It’s not a topic people really think about much, unless we’re talking babies and young animals (“be gentle with your baby sister!”). What good does gentleness do for us big, strong, tough adults? I think it’s something we have a lot to learn about. We’ve gotten so focused in recent years at being these impervious pillars of success that we’ve missed out on the benefits of the more considerate side of life; things like love, gentleness, harmony and peace. Because of this much of our society has been compartmentalized like a cost/benefits statement, and we’ve pushed the intangibles off the table.
However, I’ve learned over the years and in studying countless people and teachers that often it’s the intangibles that make all the difference. Those pesky things like love, compassion and gentleness can be the difference maker between a successful sale and a missed one, a fulfilling relationship and one that exists on the rocks, and happy, healthy children and those who regret/dislike/avoid/hate their parents. But we haven’t figured that out fully yet. We’re still trying to be all business-like about every aspect of our lives.
Yes, we’ve been burned before, and we probably will be again; after all we’re not perfect. However, making the decision to not allow those intangibles in our lives because we’ve been burned and could/will be again is a mistake; unless of course you’re interested in the world becoming a less friendly and more scary and uninhabitable place.
In a way the topic of karma is the perfect way to explain the way intangibles like gentleness work: what you sew you reap. So if we want our lives to look different we have to decide what we need more of, and I believe we need more love, gentleness, harmony and peace.
“Let there be nothing within thee that is not very beautiful and very gentle, and there will be nothing without thee that is not beautiful and softened by the spell of thy presence.” James Allen