Our lives are made up of our past, present and future. Sometimes we get too focused on one of them and it really screws things up for us. We will also go through pivotal times in our lives that will bring up things from our past to either haunt or help us. Unfortunately there will be some people who will bring up stuff from our past just to annoy or hurt us. When we can’t get away from our past it limits what we can do with our future. Our past does have an impact on our future, and it should. We have pasts so we can learn from them. But we can’t live in the past and if people keep throwing them in our faces it can be very difficult to move in a new, and healthier, direction. But to never consider the past would be a mistake as well because we would miss out on many valuable lessons that can help us create better futures.
Sometimes we make mistakes in our lives and we have to learn how to be better at accepting and moving on from those failures. Our mistakes and our past don’t mean that we are a failure and we have no future or no value. Our experiences do shape who we are but it’s up to us to choose how those experiences impact our lives. Some people choose to use those experiences to constructively help others who go through similar situations. Others find it more helpful to move in a different direction and let the lesson strengthen their character. The only mistake you can make when it comes to the past and failures is to ignore them; as has been said in many history classes over the years ‘he who ignores the past is destined to repeat it.’
Take time this weekend or next week to consider if you’re stuck in the past or speeding towards the future and ignoring other aspects of your life that could greatly benefit you.
“To state the facts frankly is not to despair the future nor indict the past. The prudent heir takes careful inventory of his legacies and gives a faithful accounting to those whom he owes an obligation of trust.” John F. Kennedy