It’s been the joke of countless TV shows, movies and books: “help I’ve fallen and can’t get up.” It’s funny until it’s you of course. Then it’s not so funny, it’s scary even, especially if there’s no one there to help you pick up all the pieces. The story of Jonah comes to mind, when he’s finished telling Nineveh to repent, and finds out that they’ve done so but gets mad instead or rejoicing and ends up miserable and alone, so miserable he can’t even appreciate the shade God gave him of the plant/tree. The answer to being stuck and not able to get up is simple: don’t be alone. Because it’s only when we’re alone and without anyone there to help or support us that we are well and truly stuck without hope.
God never intended us to go through this life alone. He surrounded us with friends and family, people who we should always be able to depend on. Unfortunately we’re not perfect and occasionally push others away, intentionally or unintentionally.
This month we’ve been talking a bit about self control, a topic that is challenging because we don’t always like to be in control, or we like control too much and there’s no way to control everything. We’ve said that we can’t control others, we can only control ourselves. And while this is true, it’s important to think about the impact of control in situations of teamwork, like families and relationships.
Simply put, it won’t always happen. We have to let go of some control to let them be themselves. We can’t be in control of every situation, the best we can do is control our reactions so that we don’t push them away when we know we will need them soon. Have you been pushing people away, so much so that you’re not sure they’ll be there if you need them? If so, now’s the time to repair those relationships.
“Two people are better than one. When two people work together, they get more work done. If one person falls, the other person can reach out to help. But those who are alone when they fall have no one to help them.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10