One thing we all struggle with at one point in time or another is confidence. We may not want to admit it but we all do like hearing praise for what we’ve said or done, and confirmation that we were right. We thrive on being appreciated and need the recognition to build up our confidence. It’s not a bad thing, we all do need to show appreciation and thank the people in our lives for doing what they do, and we need the appreciation in return; it’s how we’re built.
Discouragement and being ignored can do a lot to crush a person and make them into someone they’re not. When we’re not seen for who we are and appreciated for what we can do doubts fill our mind and we struggle with identity and believing in ourselves.
Being told outright that we’re wrong, that we have nothing good to offer, that we’ve made the mistake-not them, that we’ve failed them or what we did was absolute garbage can really do damage on our confidence and person. I know, I’ve been there, and you probably have too.
One of the ways we can increase confidence around the world is by being more faithful to one another. When we’re faithful to our commitments, to our agreements, to the choices we’ve made, people have more confidence in us and our word. That doesn’t mean we don’t ever change, it just means that we’re more consistent on a regular basis and we can be believed for who and what we say we are. This brings us to the obvious conclusion that our words are often the biggest maker or breaker of our confidence.
The words we say, even innocently, can have a big impact on those we say them to. In the world we live in it’s pretty common for something we’ve said to be spread around the internet, especially if it’s controversial. People know about our actions and words almost as soon as they leave our mouths, especially if we’re celebrities or public figures.
So what does this mean to all of us? It means that we have to be more aware of what we say, less rash in our promises and more consistent and reliable in our actions. This week I would encourage you to build up other people’s confidence in you by being confident in them.
“Confidence… thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.” Franklin D. Roosevelt