School is a time when we think often about the next generation. We’re busy trying to prepare them for the often overwhelming world we live and work in today with all the relationship and other challenges. It also makes us think about the legacy we’re leaving them. The thing we all have to remember is that everyone has a bias of some kind or another. I won’t teach on a subject or event the same way you will because I see different things as important than you do. This is one reason why I believe babysitters and community/church groups are good for kids to get involved with, because it provides perspectives that parents alone cannot provide. You are who you are and believe what you believe. Yes, we can all change and we all do, but most of us don’t change until we’re exposed to another idea or way of looking at things.
But back to our conversation on having a bias, the thing about learning and thinking about the past is that it is what it is. It can’t be changed. Yes, new revelations can put a new spin on what happened or why, perhaps clearing someone for something they did or connecting the dots finally. But I can’t change what’s in my past, neither can you. There are two things we need to do in response to our past though.
First is to stop judging it. It happened, it’s over. It’s really that simple. What’s not simple is whether or not we’ve learned the lesson we were meant to learn from it or not. You can’t change what the past is, it’s now fact. You can however choose not to let it ruin your present or your future.
Instead do step two: take the lessons from it and be faithful to living in a way that reflects that you learned something. You’ll screw up again, but if you actually take the time to make changes and behave in a different way you’ll screw up less often and be less likely to repeat the mistake or error you did in the past.
“To state the facts frankly is not to despair the future nor indict the past. The prudent heir takes careful inventory of his legacies and gives a faithful accounting to those whom he owes an obligation of trust.” John F. Kennedy