I usually write about families on my other blog on Fridays, but I thought we’d bring the conversation over here today, partly because family, in whatever form yours comes in, is a big part of who we are and what has shaped us throughout our lives. You’ve heard countless stories of late of careless and even downright piss poor parents who have treated their kids terribly, even killing them in some cases, accidental or otherwise. I know as well as you do that some people have mental disorders that can demolish their logic, their comprehension and grip on reality, but that’s not the case for everyone. Most of us have a very good idea of what’s going on around us, usually enough that we have the ability to ask for help before it gets too serious. But I digress from the topic that I actually want to talk about today: the kids in those situations.
They’re the ones that suffer for years after because of physical and/or psychological complications, but they also suffer when the rest of the world treats them as only a victim. Yes, they absolutely are victims, there’s no doubt about it. No one should be subject to the violence presented in domestic and other abuse situations. And they do deserve our support and compassion for the complications and challenges they experience as a result. but they don’t deserve to be treated as less than capable individuals because they were victims. No, we’ve seen time and again exactly how strong victims can be and how capable they are. Just because they’ve experienced hell on earth doesn’t mean they’re not capable of creating amazing victories just like you and I.
What if instead of just treating people who suffered as victims we went out of our way to make sure they got the support they needed to live normal lives like we do? What if instead of seeing them as people who have suffered and deserve our sympathy but rather those who conquered serious obstacles that they didn’t have any control over? What if we just saw them as people, not people who have suffered, but people who have the ability to do anything with their lives, just like we do?
What if instead of bemoaning our problems and issues we stood up and made something of our lives? What if instead of always looking for the handout, the easy way out or that get rich quick scheme we did what it took to make the victories we want happen? What if instead of giving in after the first or tenth failure we went on to try a different route, different perspective or different focus to find the success we knew was just waiting out of reach? What if instead of focusing on the failures we pursued the victories?
“If children have the ability to ignore all odds and percentages, then maybe we can all learn from them. When you think about it, what other choice is there but to hope? We have two options, medically and emotionally: give up, or Fight Like Hell.” Lance Armstrong