We face a lot of challenges in our lives. Many of us harbor secret hopes that we can get home from work and not have any challenges to deal with at home with our partner or kids, but that’s not usually the case, even if it’s just the homework they got and we can’t understand (thank God for Google), and not anything more serious.
The thing that we aren’t always willing to realize is that the longer we put some of these challenges off the worse they will get. Our relationships won’t get better as time goes on and we continue to ignore them, our kids won’t love us more if we pass them off to the sitter more, our jobs won’t get better if we grumble more. No, these things will only get better when we start to make changes. Admittedly, changes can be really intimidating to us.
I think the intimidation is really mostly in the first step, as the saying goes “the first step is a doozie.” It’s really hard to get going for most of us because we’re daunted by the task ahead, the circumstances of our situation or even what others will think about the changes we’re making. So you know what the secret is, right? Yep: taking that first step.
The good news is that you don’t have to rip the whole band-aid off all at once, unless you know deep down inside that that’s the only thing that will get you out of the situation you’re in, or is the most necessary because of your sanity or health. Most of the time you can take little steps initially until you’re feeling the motivation and really getting into the excitement of trying new things and getting out of the situation that may have crippled you for too long.
You’re probably familiar with the saying “if you want something done you should do it yourself.” This is a really true statement, especially when it comes to things in your life that other people can’t do anything about for you. So this weekend choose one thing that has bothered you for too long and do something immediately about it, even if it’s something small.
“Have a bias toward action – let’s see something happen now. You can break that big plan into small steps and take the first step right away.” Indira Gandhi