With Valentine’s Day tomorrow I wanted to share 4 truths of love; 4 things you may see as stereotypes or insignificant, but really play an important role in who we are and the way we are in relationships.
Everyone wants (to be) a hero/heroine: Not only do we want to be in a relationship that our partner sees us as the best thing since sliced bread, we also want to have someone come in and rock our world. There’s no need to hide from this, in fact it’s really who we are as humans: we like being successful, being seen as important and knowing that at least one other person’s life is better because we are in it.
Everyone wants to belong: no one likes to deal with all the bad stuff alone, we all like to know that we’re needed, that someone would miss us if we weren’t and that we fit somewhere in the world. The world has become more accepting and open over the past few decades, but we still have a ways to go to having less fear over being honest about who we are and what we need.
Everyone needs reinforcement/feedback: how many times a day do you tell your partner you love them? My partner and I make it a point to say it several times a day to each other, even if it’s a random text message. We all get busy, we get overwhelmed, we forget, fears and doubts creep in, issues happen and we wonder if it’s worth it and if we’re doing the right thing. We need to tell each other how much we matter and how committed we are to the relationship.
Everyone enjoys a good love story: say what you will but the 50 Shades premiere this weekend will be big. You may not support that type of intense relationship, but it’s really about something that is essential to each of our relationships: two people learning how to make a life together with all the baggage each of us has, the needs we all have and being willing to put it all out there and live life full throttle. Don’t you want a relationship that excites, thrills and fulfills you? You don’t have to add the drama, bondage or film crew to your life to have a fantastic story, you just have to be willing to go for it.
What will you do to celebrate your partner this weekend?