This week I’ve been thinking about how well we know people. Some of us are really secretive and don’t like to share anything, others of us seem to share our whole lives with the world. But with the media today how much of what we see is real and how much is marketing, right? Sometimes we’ll think we know someone really well only to find out we really don’t know them at all! And other times we know people so well we can predict their words and actions.
It can be really intimidating to us when people know us. Why? Because when they know us that well they can call us out on our BS and procrastination and bad habits. It’s not fun to be called out on that stuff, even if it is necessary sometimes. So because we fear being called out some of us try to stay away from others as much as possible or build fake relationships. I call them fake not because the people aren’t real, but because you’re not being real with the people.
However, one of the best decisions you can make, one that’s ultimately essential to your health and sanity, is to have at least one person you can be completely honest and open with, without fear of judgement. Personally, I believe that honesty is one of the best policies. If we’re not honest with the people in our lives, soon we won’t be honest with ourselves.
Each day we’ve got a choice whether we’re going to open up to the people in our lives or if we’re going to hide who we are and how unique, special and interesting we are. Don’t be afraid of your quirks or getting close, instead learn how to make the most of the time you have with the people you love.
“I don’t have any fear of intimacy, but rather thrive on it, which is rare in a public person.” Jack Nicholson