Family and the F word

Moms know a thing or two about failure.  No one is perfect, let alone a mom with kids. This month we’ll be spending a lot of time talking about family, so I wanted to address this topic at the beginning.  Of the 2 “dirty” ‘F’ words I think most of us are more worried about ‘f’ailure than the other one.  No one likes the feeling of failure.  But the reality is that failure isn’t the end that we think it is.  In fact, it’s actually a beginning.

From the moment that baby is yours to the moment you or they die you’re on an up and down journey with them through their pains and joys, victories and struggles.  You want to do the best you can for them, as you should.  You are responsible for raising them and teaching them what they need to know to not just live but to thrive in the world.  That’s a pretty big challenge with all the things we face each day and are involved with; life isn’t as simple as it used to be.  Failure will be a part of that.  But how you approach and respond to that failure will determine a lot for both you and your kid(s).

When you see failure as a stepping stone to something better you’ve presented the world as a place of possibilities for them and yourself.  However when you see failure as the end of the road you’re limiting them and their potential.  Many of the things we use on a daily basis weren’t created because people followed the rules or gave up.  Very few people get it right on the first try.  Failure isn’t shameful, giving up before you really try or before you see a dead end is.  The only way you can truly fail in every dirty sense of the word is to not get back up after you’ve been knocked down.

If you want the best for your kids you’ll remember that good things take time to be created.  Don’t crush your kids’ potential or yours, accept failure as the indication that something needs to change that it is.

“Keep on beginning and failing. Each time you fail, start all over again, and you will grow stronger until you have accomplished a purpose – not the one you began with perhaps, but one you’ll be glad to remember.”  Anne Sullivan

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