Last week in the USA a big decision was made by the supreme court on the topic of same sex marriage. I’m not going to get involved in the argument of right and wrong on the topic today, instead I want to share a verse in Romans:
“Owe nothing to anyone—except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God’s law.” Romans 13:8
Both the Bible and the teachings of Jesus in the Bible teach lots of different things and share lots of different insights on how we’re to live our lives if we’re believers of Jesus. But there’s only one thing that Jesus makes very clear in the New Testament: to love. I’ve spent whole months talking about love before, it’s a very popular and sometimes controversial topic. And over and over again I’ve seen that love can’t be put in a box, can’t be defined and isn’t something that will follow human rules. Think about the people who adopt children they’ve never seen, those willing to put many years of their lives on hold and spend great expense to care for these children. Or those who adopt the children of their husband/wife from their first marriage. Or the way love lasts 50+ years and you see elderly couples who are just as much if not more in love now than they were when they first married.
Love doesn’t mean you don’t call people out when they’re wrong, or don’t bring people to justice for breaking the law, love is separate and outside of that. Love means that even though you don’t agree with someone on everything you can still love them. Just imagine how many relationships would end if people decided because they had a few differences they couldn’t possibly be in love. Romans 13 says we’re “obligated” to love, to love others and yourself even when you’re having a bad day, even when someone is mean to you, even when someone has different lifestyles, cultures or beliefs than you.
Love crosses the divides we have in our lives so that we can see deep down we’re all human. No one is perfect. But fighting and arguing with people won’t get anyone closer to anything good. If you’re really serious about your belief and position on this issue instead of rejecting those who have opposite beliefs become friends with them; get to know them and let them get to know you. Build a honest and open friendship that will allow you two to explore together. There’s also a much better chance of changing their mind if you get to know each other, and you may find out that they’re not so bad after all.