This month the topic we’re discussing and thinking on is letting go. It’s an important topic because we’re really good at keeping stuff and gathering stuff. Just look at your calendar and see how overbooked you are for the next month, it’s almost like we’re afraid that if we don’t grab any and all things that come our way we’ll miss out on that golden ticket to total happiness, success and fulfillment. However, what I’ve discovered is that it’s not in having everything that brings satisfaction. It’s not in racking up the most song downloads, Facebook friends, or Guinness world record for things done in a day (awarded multiple times of course) that you find lasting happiness.
What I love about our topic this month is that it makes us consider that life is not just about gaining, but about losing too. I’ve spend quite a bit of time thinking and talking about failure in the past few months, not because I’ve felt like one, but because I’ve come to accept my failings more than ever as I approach new journeys in my life. We don’t like to be called or feel like losers or failures, we don’t like endings and partings or deaths. We like things to be alive and thriving. The irony is that that’s not how life works. The old saying still applies: the only guarantees in life are death and taxes.
So I choose to see endings not as a bad thing but as an opportunity. The sooner I can recognize the ending, the sooner I can discover the failure, the sooner I can accept the loss, the better I’ll be able to deal with it and recover from it. We’re really good at denials, but what we need to learn is acceptance; acceptance of life and the need to let go. The sooner you work through things the less suffering you’ll go through long-term. And if it turns out that you let go too soon, don’t berate yourself, instead look for bigger, better or just differnet opportunities that you can immerse yourself in and experience. There’s a whole big world out there most of us never see, so it’s not worth it to waste your time holding on if an end has been reached.
What have you been denying in your life? What are you avoiding thinking about or discussing? Take time right now to consider your life and what you’re holding onto.
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” Steve Maraboli