This month we’ve been talking about lessons, and we’ve got 2 more blog posts yet to go in the month next week, but today I wanted to talk about the why of lessons. Why do we have them anyway? Why do we have to learn things? Let’s start with the easier one: why we have to learn things: we have to learn things because we don’t know everything. If we knew everything I think life would be pretty boring, at least with all other known factors remaining the same it would (it’s a totally different reality in Heaven so you can’t assume it would be boring just because you know everything then, and maybe even then you don’t, but that’s a discussion for another day). So because we don’t know everything, each day we’re given opportunities to learn new things, learn more about what we already know and experience different people’s perspectives on things to encourage discussion and consideration, or even evaluate the validity, of our own perspectives.
Lessons however are something different. While learning is more of a facts thing, lessons are the experiences that shape who we are, that teach us what we see as right and wrong, and how we teach others what we know and vice versa. So what can we learn from lessons? That life has consequences, that we’re not always right, that others do know things, that we may only know partial truths, and that we all have room for improvement.
Yes, there are some people who see lessons as an opportunity to force their perspectives on someone, following the old saying “teach them a lesson,” which usually results in violent and nasty conclusions. Often no real lesson was/is taught, other than to fear others. Those people aren’t really teaching lessons, and have some things to learn themselves. And yes, some lessons can be tough to learn, like the lessons of failure and loss.
If you’re learning a lesson today that’s not easy to learn make sure to set aside time to figure out how you can turn that pain and challenge around into an opportunity and a blessing, don’t get sucked into and stuck in the frustration and hurt.
“Affliction comes to us, not to make us sad but sober; not to make us sorry but wise.” H. G. Wells