When I announced that we were going to talk about quiet this month you may have thought that it’s a bad topic or that it doesn’t apply to you or that you don’t need it to apply to you because your life is fine the way it is or felt guilty because whenever it’s quiet all the demons in your life seem to pop back out. I get that. Being quiet does give you lots of time to think and thinking isn’t always the most comfortable thing for us to do, especially if we’re feeling guilty or upset. Sometimes it’s the quiet times that seem to be the worst too, they remind us that we’re alone or lonely and you might not like that.
First, quiet does apply to everyone. Everyone needs moments that they’re not swept up in the world and the bustle of it. We need the time to reconnect with our purpose and personal power and center or ground ourselves, and the only way to do that is in moments of quiet.
Second, some of our demons will stay with us through our lives but facing them and working through them can help them to not be as big or scary. Talking through moments of quiet during which your demons appear with a trusted friend, therapist or coach can help you to find some peace with them.
Third, if you’re not comfortable taking quiet time because it reminds you that you’re alone you probably aren’t comfortable with and accepting of who you are. If you’re not comfortable with yourself how can you expect anyone to be comfortable with you or for you to be confident enough in who you are to create the life you want? The goal is to be thrilled when you have quiet time to be yourself.
Quiet isn’t something that is optional, it’s necessary to making the world a better place, so the next time you have quiet time look for the positives rather than trying to fill it with noise.
“Our language has wisely sensed the two sides of being alone. It has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone.” Paul Johannes Tillich