Thanksgiving is less than 2 weeks away and (in case you can’t tell) I’m excited!! In past years (pre-diet changes) the next month and a half were always my favorites with all the cookies, pies and stuffing! While my excitement over food has changed a lot over the past few years it hasn’t dimmed my overall excitement for this time of year. With all the unpleasant things going on around the world it’s such a blessing to be able to celebrate despite or in-spite of those things and take time to remember all the good and blessings in our lives and in just being alive.
Today though we’re not going to talk about all the awesome things I love about this time of year but rather take a step back and be honest about the self-doubt that we experience during this time. There are tons of reasons for you to keep that checklist of ‘things people hate about me’ or ‘ways I don’t stack up’ or ‘ways I’ve let people down’ handy, family gatherings are known to bring out the worst in many of us, not to mention the embarrassing stories that always seem to get told every year. To be completely honest we don’t totally stack up against the standards or expectations that some people set for us partly because we’re not perfect and partly because we don’t have to live up to anyone’s expectations except our own (even though we often do try to). It can be scary to choose not live up to their expectations for us, especially if they don’t seem to love us as much because of it, but it’s a big relief to be able to be ourselves and not whomever they think we should be.
Psalm 139:17-18 says “How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me!” When we face doubts about who we are, why we were born, or how valuable we are the first place we should turn to is God. These verses remind us that we’re here because He created us with a purpose. God has plans for our lives, and if He has plans for us we’re not worthless no matter what anyone says. Not only that, but that God thinks about us for reasons other than selfish or judgmental ones, and often enough that we wouldn’t be able to count them if we tried. That says to me that each of us is very special to God. So when your family is coming down on you for not being who they wanted you to be or for some unrealistic expectation, know that you’re not alone and that God likes you just as He created you.