Yesterday as you’re probably aware was Valentine’s Day in the USA. It’s an opportunity for couples everywhere to share some love, eat some chocolate and work on the next generation (a fact according to statistics). As I was thinking about Valentine’s Day and what it means to be in a relationship I ran across Daniel 10:11-12:
“Daniel, you are very precious to God, so listen carefully to what I have to say to you. Stand up, for I have been sent to you.” When he said this to me, I stood up, still trembling. Then he said, “Don’t be afraid, Daniel. Since the first day you began to pray for understanding and to humble yourself before your God, your request has been heard in heaven. I have come in answer to your prayer.”
This set of verses speaks to a couple of keys about love and relationships that are important to note. First, love relationships are meant to be special. The term used here is “precious,” and while it’s not a term many people would use today it’s still applicable. The word precious refers to things of special or unique value or to be treasured, much like a baby human or animal. But it also speaks to how we should perceive our relationships: with care.
Second, love isn’t something to fear. It may be overwhelming at times, but it’s only because people have perverted love and not respected it that we have fears surrounding it. True love isn’t something you should fear. And if there is real fear in your relationship it’s not a healthy one.
Third, it requires communication. Communication between partners is essential, both listening and talking. When we don’t take time to listen and don’t express ourselves we shortchange each other and our relationship. Some things can be said without words but all too often the only words that we share are words of hurt and hate.
Are you attentive to the special needs and quirks of your relationship? Are you working together to overcome fears? And are you really communicating or just hurling insults? What have you been missing in your relationship of late?