It’s been a busy week for me, I’ve been doing lots of thinking and discovering. Of course with that typically comes up a lot of the feelings, thoughts, and memories that you wish could stay buried forever. While some can be reburied immediately (or as soon as possible), others need to be considered and dealt with, typically because they haven’t been dealt with in the past. It’s not bad to have these things come back up, and honestly, the sooner they do, the better. Because it’s not until you’ve dealt with them truly that you can really move forward. Even if you didn’t remember the pain, fear, anger, frustration, hurt or other painful emotions from the past and the memories that they’re connected to, they could be holding you back. While I’m not a big believer in digging up as much dirt and the past as possible over and over, sometimes it’s necessary to work through what happened and how you felt in the past because it will help you navigate the current change you’re going through in a better way and free you to see the world in a new light.
Whether you’re reinventing yourself, bringing things back to life, looking at things from a new perspective, creating something new, or making changes, you will have to deal with some challenging emotions, including those of failure. While I don’t expect that you will fail in your process (I hope you don’t!) many people do experience some failures when they’re working through the change process. Why? Because when things change we typically run into things we haven’t experienced before, or we’ll hit our personal stumbling blocks (including those we haven’t dealt with from the past) and we’ll trip and fall or not get it right on the first try because it’s new to us. And again, while it’s not fun to fail, no one is perfect and few of us get things right on the first try.
So if you’re going through a time of transition like me, don’t hide or run from the past or the emotions and challenges that you face as you transition, change, think, grow, create or discover. Know that they are part of the journey and could teach you valuable lessons to apply to your future. And even if they don’t apply to your future, finally working through them can free you from baggage you didn’t even know you had holding you down.