I was talking about the show “Hoarders” with a client this week. I love organization and it’s something I work on with my clients, but it’s not a show I enjoy watching or choose to watch. I have watched it in the past because of what I do and out of curiosity. The premise of the show is that there are people whose houses are so crammed full of stuff that they can hardly move. Something has happened in their lives or the lives of family members and as a result they’re finally deciding to try to do something about the clutter. The Hoarders team is brought in and together the client and team work to not only throw out or donate a lot of stuff, they also talk about the non-visible clutter that made the visible clutter get this bad in the first place. I saw a recent commercial for it featuring an individual who had been on the show as a client and he shared his thankfulness about the transformation that took place in his life through the show. If you’ve seen it you know that as a result of the work the clients do experience great transformations and are given a fresh start at life.
The reason I bring it up is because of the conversation we were having around it. Yes, the craziness of the hoarding was mentioned, and they said that they sometimes get sucked in and watch because they can’t believe it and it just amazes them. The reason I like the show is because they achieve a great transformation with it. I’m not a fan of news TV because often it’s just a report, nothing is done about the issue. Yes, it’s great that issues are coming to light, but just bringing them to light doesn’t really do anything. The rare exception is when someone’s experience or emotions are confirmed around a situation or person and they’re able to find some peace or freedom as a result (like hearing the story of a rape survivor or knowing a dishonest executive was sent to jail may give them some peace even if the individual that raped them or took their money wasn’t).
Yes, I take time to look at the issues with myself and my clients, I don’t believe we can really move on unless we take time to work through them and understand them at least a little and see how they fit into our life story. But I don’t believe it’s healthy for all of us to be bringing up our history or focusing on what went wrong in our lives all of the time. I believe there has to be a point at which we choose to move forward and start telling a new story. I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to move on to what 2017 has for us. I’m tired of talking about 2016 and the past, and ready to start equipping myself and others to conquer all this year has to offer. Are you?