This week I’ve been thinking again about my place in this world, and yours too. It’s challenged me to really consider who I am, what I’m good at, why I’m here and how my imperfections work into all of it. If you can’t admit that you struggled with something this week, shame on you. Unless you buried your head in the sand for the whole week, I know that you’ve been challenged by something this week. I’ve really been challenged by how much I can’t do. I’m OK with it, but at the same time, not being able to excel at everything gets to me occasionally. If I’ve had a particularly bad day lists of my faults and failures can parade through my mind without my permission. Maybe you’ve dealt with some of these insecurities too.
These struggles really reminded me why it’s so important that we let others in our lives, that we not try to get through this life alone, that we make the effort to build relationships and support those we come in contact with. Often it’s those relationships and those other people that challenge us the most, but they also make life the most rewarding. So how do we get past the challenges and let others into our lives, let others take control in areas that we’re not so strong or capable in and they are?
First, I think we have to be humble and admit that we aren’t alone in the world and need others. It’s not easy to admit that you have weaknesses, especially if you have an image with someone. But opening up and admitting that you’re not perfect creates an opportunity for you to grow a deeper relationship with them.
Second, Galatians 5:22 says “But the fruit that the Spirit produces in a person’s life is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness.” When we choose to enter into relationships, and sustain relationships, with the fruit of the spirit, not only will we pave the way for a satisfying relationship on our end, the other person will benefit too.
Finally, find the point of reference, point of unity, or common ground you two have. Everyone has something in common. It may take a while to discover it, but it’s there. For many people, a common point of interest is faith, especially faith in Christ.
Our relationships should make us stronger because they force us to work together, make us learn how to work together, and to learn how to communicate what we need and want. This week I encourage you to be honest with yourself and the people who matter most to you in life about what’s going on in your life, where you stand and what you need. Most people would be thrilled to step up to the plate for you and give you a hand if you would just ask.