With Valentine’s Day just a few days away many people are thinking about love in the US. But love and relationships aren’t exclusive to the US, they’re present around the world. As I was reading through my emails today and thinking about my partner a few rooms over from me I was reminded about one of the things that often challenge us in a relationship: unity. That’s kind of a big part of a relationship, that on multiple levels you and your partner are a good match. Even if you’re together for “political reasons” (not something that happens as often today), there are still things that bring you two together and you can agree on or talk about comfortably without the conversation feeling one sided.
The other part of unity is the feeling of being completed you have about/with/because of your partner. I don’t believe we are supposed to be alone, I believe we should be going through life together, and that everyone should be able to find the person that makes them feel like a better and more complete person. Not every couple experiences that “click” where you meet someone and it just feels right. Sometimes getting to the point of feeling that connection takes time and effort even if your intention originally was just to build a friendship. No, it doesn’t have to be for forever, but for however long you are together you should feel that connection with that other person, and work together to keep that feeling alive.
Unity is all about who you two are together, whether with family, your kids, at work or out with friends. It’s also what others see in and of you and how you interact with the world as a couple. Constantly berating your partner or telling (negative) stories about them in public doesn’t make you look unified, it hurts the relationship and may even hurt your relationship with others. Valentine’s Day does have a way of bringing people together, which is one of the reasons I love it. But this year instead of just taking time out during one day to be together, I encourage you to work on building your unity and connection throughout the year.