We’re getting ready to head into what will probably be another busy week. It seems like even when we have the best intentions of slowing down that we don’t make it happen like we should. This month we’ll be talking about relationships. Yes, we do talk about relationships all year long and it’s a very broad topic, including family, partners/significant other, friends, coworkers and neighbors. But this month we’ll be focusing in on making the most of the relationships we have, learning how to be a supportive partner and navigating the complexities that we each bring to a relationship.
Whether we’re talking about family, partners/significant other, friends, coworkers or neighbors, in order for it to fall into the relationship category you have to interact with them. For estranged family members or neighbors you don’t even know by name, it’s not really a relationship, and we won’t be focusing on it much, other than in a conversation about starting or fixing relationships. Today though I want to focus on the one thing that frustrates, challenges and hurts us when it comes to relationships: fighting and disagreements.
Any time there’s a relationship there’s always more than one person involved. And with each and every one of us comes opinions, likes and dislikes, fears, and different ways of seeing things, which means that it’s very likely there will be at least one fight or heated disagreement between you during the course of your relationship (even if it’s over something like a misheard comment or lack of context). So if you want the best relationship possible there’s one thing to keep in mind: peace starts with you. Don’t expect or require them to always be the peacemaker or hope that you’ll never be lacking peace, choose to bring peace to your relationships and work on learning how to work things out in a more peaceful manner. Is peace something you need to work on this week?
“First, keep the peace within yourself. Then you can bring peace to others.” Thomas a Kempis