This week I was visiting the Facebook page of an author I enjoy and saw that their PR person (and friend) had posted an update sharing a little on the health issues the author has had, explaining some of the delays to books being published or written and had some choice words for the people who leave negative comments about how long it takes for books to get done or why the author hasn’t written books they’ve been promising for years.
I know it’s not easy to be disappointed and to wait for things that you’re looking forward to, but no one actually schedules into their life getting sick, divorces, job loss, flat tires or rebellious kids (or any of the other things that pop up into our lives). I also understand the interest in and need for schedules and deadlines, it’s an important way to make sure things in life (including work) keep moving forward. But when you’re more concerned by the work than your own health or the health of someone else, I get worried.
I personally love to read, and of course I’m a little sad when I hear that it’s going to be another 6 months or year until one of my favorite authors is coming out with a new book, not to mention how bad I feel for the author and all they’re going through. But one, I’d rather know the author will write again, than that they’re dead or done writing. Second, there are so many authors out there in every genre to read that to say you’ve only got one author you read and be completely dependent on them for books is pretty silly. Finally, if you’re so worked up over the fact that a fiction book isn’t being published or written yet that you have to leave nasty comments, I would have serious questions about your attitude towards life and about what goes on in your life.
But this is about more than just one author or one book, it’s about how we treat each other. What gives you the right to bash on someone else? It’s one thing to give feedback to someone or a company in a private manner, it’s another to tell the whole world how they’ve failed you and how pissed you are. There are a few situations when that’s appropriate, but that’s not the typical case. There’s also a difference between helping someone move on from a person or situation in their life and being rude and nasty about how stuck they’ve gotten and how stupid you think they’re being. I know it can be a difficult line to find and not cross, especially in this very public world that we live in, but my encouragement to you would be to take a step back before you offer criticism or say what you’re thinking before you think about it.
I encourage you to choose words that will help, encourage and support this week, and look to build up your relationships, not destroy them.
Last week in my weekly devotional I talked about the topic of guilt. Do you feel guilty often? I think most of us are human enough that we do feel guilt from time to time and feel bad about the things we’ve done or choices we’ve made. We should feel guilty about sins we commit and people we hurt because it means that God is working in us, and we recognize when we do things we shouldn’t. Today I wasn’t planning on talking about guilt, but about doing the right thing.
Do you sometimes choose to do the right thing because you know it will be the easy thing? That rather than maybe getting caught for cutting corners or having to redo things you just do the right thing the first time? I know I do. I like shortcuts as much as the next person, but sometimes those shortcuts aren’t so short and it’s just easier to do the right thing the first time.
What about doing the right thing because it feels good? What about treating others with respect because that’s how you want to be treated? What about doing things for the right reason period? What about doing the right thing because God says to in the Bible? This week I challenge you to do the right thing. Treat others with respect, go the extra mile to do things right, do things right the first time, say ‘thank you’ and ‘bless you’ often and choose to make a difference doing right not only because it will feel good, but because it’s what God calls His people to do.
“So I strive always to keep my conscience clear before God and man.” Acts 24:16
This month’s topic is teamwork and it’s everywhere I look! We’re seeing lots of divides and coming together over some really challenging topics and events, from the ruling on marriage to the deaths in Charleston. Teamwork is many things: it means we’re not alone, it means we don’t have to be everything for everyone, it means that we can win more often and it means that others can win more often too. Teamwork is one of the best ways to create more win-win-win situations. You’ve probably heard about win-win situations, in which both parties involved can win, but when you get to win-win-win decisions it means that not only are both parties satisfied with the outcome, they’re also aware of how their wins affect others in the greater world and have done their best to make it a good thing for them too.
Some of my most satisfying teamwork experiences come from the missions/charity work I’ve done in the past. Seeing the joy on a child’s face because you chose to partner with them or give them something they didn’t have before or the transformation you were able to make for a family who had very little by building or doing something is a huge reward. It’s not always about what you get out of being part of the team, it’s about the difference you can make for someone else.
And it’s when you’re in it for someone else that the greatest impact can be had on your life without you even trying, which is why some of those missions/charity work made such an impact on my life. Giving back is one of the quickest ways to remind yourself that you’re not alone but that you’re part of something much bigger than you see on a regular basis. As connected as we are through the internet these days we’re also really isolated and in our own worlds, but it’s through teamwork that we regain our perspective and discover exactly how much world there is out there beyond us.
“Help others and give something back. I guarantee you will discover that while public service improves the lives and the world around you, its greatest reward is the enrichment and new meaning it will bring your own life.” Arnold Schwarzenegger
As people of faith we’re here with a very important purpose, one that may seem insignificant at times, and others may seem too big: the purpose of being of service. Service is something I’ve made a study of over the past 10 years or so, I’ve spent time observing how different churches and parishioners view service, how individuals serve, and even the different ways we can be of service outside of spiritual boxes. Sometimes we’re of service just by being kind and greeting a neighbor, other times it’s a very spiritual service where we’re praying over someone very ill, and sometimes it doesn’t even look like service in a traditional definition, like when we make a donation to a faith-based organization.
Yet, I do believe we’re called to be of service in whatever way we can be at that time. While it may look different, the goal is always the same: to spread the love of Jesus. This is what Jesus asked us to do in the Great Commission, what He spent His time on earth showing through His actions and what He has always asked those that call themselves God’s Children to do.
It happens through a humble and willing heart, someone willing to be used to care for someone else in some, however small, way. To do what you can to alleviate the suffering and stress of others around the world, and show them that they haven’t been forgotten. Sometimes you’ll need to pray for strength to do what God has called you to do, other times it will feel like you’re not doing enough. But that you are willing and do what God has asked you to do is what matters.
Who will you serve this week?
“Make us worthy, Lord, to serve our fellow men and women throughout the world who live and die in poverty and hunger. Give them, through our hands, this day their daily bread, and by our compassionate love, give them peace and joy. Amen.” Rev. Peter Schineller
This week more has become clear about the plane crash in Europe, apparently the man responsible was dealing with some personal things and mental health issues, and as a result chose to not only kill himself but take 149 other people with him as well. I can understand wanting to be rid of the world, especially if your body and/or mind is really at war with you. I can understand not wanting to suffer through years of debilitating illnesses, or not being able to deal with the weight of the darkness around you. There is evil in the world, there are thousands of reasons for your body’s chemistry to get messed up or your mind to get lines crossed. But what I can’t understand is being insensitive enough to take others with you.
This week is a journey in the Church from pain to healing with Good Friday and Easter. We recognize that in this imperfect world that we live in there will be pain and suffering, at least until Jesus comes back again. For now we’re given the promise of the resurrection, and that has to be enough to get us through and remind us of what Jesus really taught while on earth: loving each other.
With as big of a figure and leader as Jesus was He could have done or said anything, but He chose to teach about love. He chose to accept and love those that others saw as unlovable and unacceptable. Jesus chose not to cause suffering and spread hate, but to spread joy and peace.
It’s not unacceptable or wrong to struggle, that’s not my point at all, in fact it’s natural and we all deal with it at one point in time or another (or more than once). If you are dealing with darkness it’s important to get help and counsel before making any really big decisions. And it’s important for those of us who aren’t struggling to not judge those who are because we’ve all been there or will be there.
What will be your choice this week? Will you choose to spread love and support or isolate with anger and narrow-minded views?
“We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each other’s happiness, not by each other’s misery.” Charlie Chaplin
Something I’ve always stressed in my business and writings is the importance of people. No, that hasn’t changed with the change of the calendar, in fact we’ll probably talk about it even more this year. While I haven’t revealed my theme for the year yet, this month we’ll be talking about being prepared. One of the best ways to deal with people is to be as prepared as possible for any and all possibilities and curve balls that could come your way. When you’ve taken the time to study language and facial expressions and learned how people generally are wired you’re immediately given a step up from anyone else who goes into a situation blind. In fact, one of the quickest ways to fail a job interview is to go into the job knowing absolutely nothing about the business that you’re applying at, and one of the quickest ways to hurt a friend or your partner is to intentionally check out of the conversation because it doesn’t interest you only to be called to the carpet later for an update or help with the issue and have no clue what they’re talking about.
One thing that I know many people have been avoiding accepting or understanding for a long time is that people care. People care if you listen to them, they care if you show up, they care if you’re OK, they care about the product or service you’re offering or the job you do. It hurts when people care because it means that we can (and probably will at some point in time) let them down; it hurts to care for the same reasons. We’ve been hurt and let down before, so we’ve learned to build walls to keep people at a distance. But I’ve seen lots of evidence that people are starting to realize that that’s not the way to live. Living in a box isolated from emotion, passion, fulfillment and purpose is just not that satisfying. So we’re starting to care again, starting to get emotionally invested, and starting to put our necks out just a little bit.
If you’re as on board with this as I am, there’s a simple way that you can build those relationships without sticking your neck too far: encourage someone. It’s when you say thank you and recognize them for doing something helpful, when you take the time to compliment them, when you take the time to really listen and just share a few words in support from your heart. It’s not painful to share a few words or minutes to encourage someone, and it can make a positive impact on you and them.
We’re just a few short weeks away from Christmas and the celebration of Jesus’ birth again. Today I wanted to share about a story from later in Jesus ministry, when He was an adult: the story of Zacchaeus. If you remember the story in Luke 19, Jesus is walking along and gathers the usual crowd of people wanting to see him, short Zacchaeus can’t see over the crowd, climbs a tree and Jesus finds him there and asks to come over and hang out at Zacchaeus’s house, which really annoys people because Zacchaeus is a tax collector and they weren’t well liked back then (or now for that matter). Zacchaeus ends up giving much of his wealth away because of Jesus’ gesture and willingness to be with him even though he was probably not the “best” of men.
But the thing about the story that I wanted to talk about this week was the order of the story: Jesus met and talked with Zacchaeus and told him He wanted to have dinner before Zacchaeus made the decision to go straight and not be a bad person (assuming he was). We assume that Jesus was willing to be with Zacchaeus regardless of whether or not he was willing to turn his life around, disregarding the whole All-Knowing God aspect of things of course. Jesus didn’t care about Zacchaeus’s past, He only cared about the future.
One of the things that always amazes me about Jesus was how forward thinking He was. Yes, He knew the scriptures that were written before He came to earth, including those that predicted His arrival. But Jesus wasn’t concerned with what they said or how people had interpreted them for the most part, He was focused on a few core teachings: love, acceptance, forgiveness, and hope. These core teachings totally threw the spiritual world of His time into turmoil and his time on earth totally changed the future for everyone.
As we think about the holidays, and the Christmas celebration, it’s really a story of acceptance, of bringing together people of different walks of life to celebrate being alive, having a future and the gift of being alive. It’s not a time for judging, denial or hatred, but a time of healing and celebration of each other, differences and all. What will you choose to accept this Christmas?