Today’s topic is one that most of us struggle with at one point in time or another: confidence. I heard on the radio today that confidence is one of the things that people check for when they meet new people. Do you do a confidence check when you meet someone new? Depending on the type of confidence they have you may feel overwhelmed, impressed, excited or even underwhelmed by them.
The confidence I want to talk about today is really based around people having a lack of confidence. I talked with a consultant this week who had a simple but complete website and seemed like a nice person. When I got him on the phone he didn’t really remember the emails we exchanged, reminded me several times about his lack of professional recognition (licensing/degrees etc.) even after I had already informed him that I wasn’t necessarily looking for anyone like that, didn’t seem confident about his ability to help me and it really put me off to wanting to work with him.
I’m not someone who leads with overwhelming confidence but I do believe in myself and my abilities. If I tell you that I can’t assist you it’s not because I don’t have skills and capabilities, it’s because we’re not a good fit or you need other kinds of assistance than I’m able to or willing to offer. I believe in who I am and what I can do, and won’t try to convince you I can or can’t offer assistance because I don’t fit in a society-approved box.
Confidence isn’t about always being right, being perfect, or having all the answers. Confidence is about believing in yourself, who you are, what you’re capable of doing (even if it’s with the help of others), and believing in being able to make a positive difference on the future. You don’t have to live up to the letter of the world’s law, you can make your own rules. But if you choose to make your own rules and walk your own path, move forward with confidence in your ability to do so, don’t apologize for choosing to be different.