I got a call today from my doctor telling me they were cancelling and rescheduling my appointment next week based on anticipated weather. Yes, you read that right and no, I don’t live in the southern US where there are frequent hurricanes and related storms during this time of year, and no, it’s not winter with big snow storms that we do get. Of course I didn’t want to reschedule but I didn’t really have a choice. Of course, I know this isn’t about me, but the weather hasn’t been exactly predictable lately and I don’t think it’s necessarily a wise decision to make. It upsets many people’s schedules and is a day of lost revenue for them.
As I was thinking through my frustration and confusion over their decision to close because of the anticipated weather, it got me thinking about how often we do this kind of thing: make/change plans anticipating the worst. Why do we anticipate the worst out of our world and each other? Don’t get me wrong, we’ve definitely been handed a tough hand this year and there’s still a lot of days left in the year, and it often feels like we’re waiting for yet another shoe to drop (and it may). And it does pay to be prepared for issues or potential problems that may pop up. For example it is good to have insurance on your car and home so that you’re covered in case things happen.
But I don’t want to live in a world where all we’re doing is looking over our shoulders and waiting for yet another shoe to drop. I couldn’t live in Alaska with so much night and snow, I couldn’t live in a place where it rains more than it’s sunny, I don’t like to spend more time than I have to with people who are always negative or put others down. Most of those are things I can anticipate and avoid or make decisions based on, but there’s no way to truly anticipate everything that happens in life or all the situations we find ourselves in. But I think we can do a better job of noticing when we’re avoiding something based on fear that it might happen and don’t have really good evidence that it will, or making plans based on strong evidence that it will happen. What will you choose in this new month?