When things end all too often we’re at odds with life. We ask ourselves “what do we do now?” and “what’s next?” and we don’t have an answer. I’ve got several clients and friends who are going through “endings” in their lives, that something big is changing for them. But an ending doesn’t always mean that there’s nothing coming next, often it just means that you’re closing the book on one chapter of your life and another chapter is waiting to be written. As I was thinking about this I was reminded how important it is to see life as a journey.
Journeys aren’t made up of one part, they’re made up of stretches and seasons, of moving from place to place until the final destination (death) has been reached. The journey doesn’t end because you reach an age or an accomplishment, because your relationship failed, because the business you worked for closed, or because you faced and conquered a scary sickness, that’s only the end of that part of the journey, which is why it’s so important to keep the bigger picture in mind at all times. It’s also a great reason to remember to do your best to balance life and keep your life as inclusive of all things and people that matter to you, rather than letting yourself get tunnel vision on one aspect.
The other thing I was reminded about was how important it is to dream throughout our lives. We can get so wrapped up in things that we forget what it’s like to have passion and dreams. I’m not (just) talking pipe dreams and dreams of retiring to our own private island, I’m talking about the realistic ones like being in a long-term happy and healthy relationship or raising kids or making a difference in the world in a way that’s personal to you. Those are dreams that we should be having all the time and working on all the time, because life is richer and more fulfilling when we’re able to dream dreams and live those dreams.
Of course there’s no guarantee that you’ll be really ready for an ending when it arrives or whatever the next part of the journey includes, but being open to the movements of life and being willing to work with the challenges and opportunities that come your way will help you be better prepared and better able to work through whatever your next chapter includes. And at the very least, at every stage of the journey you can believe that life will remain just as good as it is or that it can get better as you move on. What about you? Where is life taking you right now and are you prepared for the changes that are coming, or maybe even excited about those changes?