Do you pay attention to recurring themes in your life? The other day I heard a Bible verse shared on a radio station and in the days that followed that verse kept coming back to me as I lived my life, as I interacted with clients and friends, and as I traveled around the internet. The verse? A well known, Matthew 7:7 (and I’m also including verse 8):
“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.”
A familiar set of verses, yes? You may be more familiar with another translation like the NIV or NKJV or KJV, but I’m partial to the NLT, which is what this is. I’ve discussed this set of verses before including about today’s topic, the asking part. I love questions. I think part of the reason I’ve learned to love them is because the better you get at asking questions, the more you get out of life. The more willing you are to ask questions, the more willing you are to be curious, the more willing you are to learn, the less likely you will be to be surprised by something unexpected down the road and more prepared you can be which means you’ll spend less time redoing things or even failing.
But asking isn’t just about clarification, details or making sure you have the full story (all of which are super important), it’s about being willing to explain and ask for what you need to live your best life, or at least try to. Generosity and giving are both super important to keeping us humble and connected to others, but we can’t expect that others will always just “know” when we need something or have it magically appear. God gave us voices so that we can ask when we have a need or when we see a need. And the thing is, it’s so simple to ask someone for clarification or to ask someone if they’re done with something or to ask for what you need. It doesn’t hurt to ask, but it can definitely do damage if you don’t speak up and ask.
So we’ve established the importance of asking. But the biggest thing this set of verses doesn’t speak to, as you probably noticed, is the time factor. There are two sides to the time factor: when you ask and when you receive, and the time factor is the other aspect of asking that I’ve been seeing repeatedly show up in my life. The part that we’re not going to talk about today is that yes, it says that if we ask we’ll receive, but it doesn’t say when we will receive if we ask. The other part is about when you ask your questions. The timing of your question matters as much as when the answer is going to show up. Because it’s great to ask questions, but when you ask questions in the 11th hour or after the fact you’re not completely defeating the purpose of asking, but you’re definitely taking away a lot of the power of asking and making it less of the tool or resource that it is. And when you ask your question late it’s a lot harder for others to give your question the proper thought or research to come up with good answers or resources or the support that you’re asking for. The sooner you ask the less stress you experience debating over it and the more likely others will be able to assist in fulfilling your request or getting you detailed answers in a timely fashion.
The bottom line today is this: don’t be afraid to ask and ask sooner rather than later. It will help keep your familial relationships healthier, you’ll experience less stress, you’ll have better work relationships and you’re always more likely to receive if you ask. What have you asked for recently?