There are a lot of things that can go wrong or derail us during our victory journeys, maybe the biggest being that we don’t have any way of truly knowing everything that will happen from ‘start’ to ‘finish’, because we may hit something so big in the middle that we can’t get to ‘finish’, no matter how clear we’re on wanting to get there or how well we can picture that success. The other day I got one of those “earworms” as they’re called, catchy bits of music that just go through our brains like the spin cycle of the wash. That “earworm” reminded me of one of the reasons why we get stuck in our victory journey that isn’t the place I first look to see if is the issue:
“It’s me, hi, I’m the problem, it’s me…”
Ouch. Yes, as Taylor Swift sings in “Anti-Hero,” sometimes we’re the reason our victory journeys aren’t moving forward. I think it’s just natural to look to the exterior influences because of course we think we’re doing our best and have this great plan, and often the issues are external. But at the very center of every victory you do is you, so I have to say that more than 50% of your victory journey depends on you. Because it’s your idea, your energy, your passion, your motivation, your time, your resources, your commitment, maybe your team, your future, and of course your life. If you weren’t in the equation it wouldn’t be your victory!
That said, the goal here isn’t to shame you or beat down your self confidence. Instead it’s a reminder that sometimes the issues are close to home and we’re so busy putting energy into checking what’s around us instead of first making sure that we’re not what’s holding things up. After you’ve done a quick survey making sure that the world around you isn’t on fire or something equally catastrophic that’s very obvious, then make sure that it’s not your gut saying that something’s wrong, you make sure you’re not letting fear take over, you make sure you’re not overwhelmed, and you make sure that you’re still committed, then you can move on to taking a deeper look at what’s going on around you and what externally might be holding up the victory you’re still looking forward to achieving. What blocks have you worked through recently?