Who are you?
This is a really important question we all need to ask on a regular basis to make sure that we have not gotten swept away by the world but that we know who we are, but more than that, we’re proud of who we are. How did you answer the question? Did your reply include the name of a family member or talk about your job? Did your reply shine a positive light on you or cast you in shadows? What does your reply tell you about what you believe about yourself?
What I’ve learned over the years is that no one can be responsible for my happiness or success except for me. Yes, other people and companies will have an impact on my happiness and success, there are lots of great and bad partnerships out there to be had. But choosing to enter in or stay in those relationships is totally up to me.
When we choose to stay in situations that aren’t fulfilling us the way they need to, we’ve got a choice to make: stay, tweak or go. If we stay it means that we’re choosing to release our desire for something for a time. Maybe we’re releasing our happiness to make extra money for a season. It becomes dangerous though when we stick around for longer than the appropriate season. If we tweak our situation it means that we ask the people in the relationship to change things a bit, such as adopt a few different responsibilities at work or at home. This is a great way to resolve issues that aren’t truly threatening to you personally, but aren’t living up to the standards of who you are and what you believe. Finally, if you choose to leave it means you realize that nothing good can come of staying in the situation for any longer. It means you’ve recognized that the best is yet to come and here is not the best.
This week I encourage you to ask yourself the question: “who am I.” Take time to consider what makes you happy, what frustrates you, what is slowly killing you and what you’re ready to change. It’s been proven over and over again that the only person you can truly be successfully in this world is the person you were created to be. I can’t be you, you can’t be me. Without both of us the world won’t go ’round.
“I know now that most people are so closely concerned with themselves that they are not aware of their own individuality, I can see myself, and it has helped me to say what I want to say in paint.” Georgia O’Keeffe