Since you’re here reading this it means you want to do something bigger or better with you’re life. It means that you’re tired of being held back, tired of waiting, tired of being frustrated, and tired of being stuck and hopeful that there’s something better for you and ready to make that something else happen. As we’ve talked about fears this month, Wednesday I shared the ironic conclusion that what we’ve done this month was really the opposite of our goals; we don’t want fear to have that big hold on our lives: we want to be free. So on this last blog post of the month we are going to talk about the big challenge that fears present: getting past them to what’s better.
What holds us back in many areas of our lives, is not just our fears, but the story we tell ourselves about stuff. We make up stories about the people we see at Starbucks, we make up stories about our coworkers and boss, and we make up stories to convince ourselves that we’re right (even if we know we’re really wrong). We tell ourselves that we’re right to be afraid and that the fears are based in reality and we need to heed them and that we’ll never be able to do whatever the fear is about, and that we’re not good enough to do anything and that we’re not big enough to make a real difference in the world.
But in many cases a story is just that: a story. You probably played “Telephone” as a kid where the first kid whispers a sentence to the next person in line and by the time the sentence is repeated to the last person it doesn’t resemble the first sentence in any way. Sometimes this is because we don’t hear it right, other times it’s because the person before us (or even ourselves) added a little something to the sentence to make it sound better or be funnier. Stories can change, the question is are we willing to change them?
Ending a month means moving on to a new one. As we consider the new month before us I encourage you to consider if you have stories that you need to let go of or re-write. Don’t let your fears and the stories they have created ruin the freedom that could be yours.
“I knew that if I allowed fear to overtake me, my journey was doomed. Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I chose to tell myself a different story…” Cheryl Strayed