The adventure in Rio has begun. Whether you enjoy watching events like the Olympics or others like the World Series or Oscars (as well as local events of the same types), or not, there’s something awesome about people coming together and showing what they’ve got. These special or culminating events include people from a specific group or from around the world who are the best of the best at the time. It’s a way of showing what they can do as well as an opportunity for the rest of us to celebrate what they can do. I think these types of events are important because it’s important to celebrate the good, cool, and/or interesting things we can each do. It’s a healthy way of pointing out and celebrating our differences and what makes each of us unique.
I believe that God has given each of us special gifts and talents, and that it hurts Him when we don’t use what He has given us. You don’t go to the store and buy stuff you don’t like or use, you only buy what you want and need. The same is true with the gifts and talents we have: we should use them. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about purpose and what I’m doing with my life and what I want to do with my life. It’s always good to take time to reflect on your life and what you’re doing because it means you can stop the derailments that may be happening and curb unhappiness before it becomes full blown depression or causes more problems than it needs to.
Take time to do a reality check on your life this week. Are you unhappy? If so, why? Life is way too short to be stuck and unhappy. Don’t be afraid of letting your gifts and talents shine. Don’t worry too much about the criticisms you get for having and using your gifts and talents. Don’t bury your gifts and talents because you don’t think you can make a living using them or that they’re not useful gifts. Everyone has valuable gifts, it’s up to you to find out how best to use yours.
“I always thank my God for you and for the gracious gifts he has given you, now that you belong to Christ Jesus.” 1 Corinthians 1:4
“You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.” Matthew 5:14, 16
Each day we’re faced with challenges, it’s one of the things I look forward to each morning and dread too. There are days you don’t know what’s waiting for you, and sometimes what you are expecting that day isn’t something you’re looking forward to. So today I have a challenge for you, as said by General George S. Patton:
“Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory.”
We can get so caught up in the struggle, and feel like we’re so far from ever reaching our destination that we can forget about what it feels like to have a victory. The length and fight of the struggle dissuades many people from choosing or accepting challenges, so many people stay stuck, poor, unhappy and alone. Because we’ve forgotten how great the victory is we’re living partial, unfulfilled lives.
This is one reason why I encourage all my clients to celebrate little victories as well as big ones, because if you don’t celebrate the little ones along the way you’ll never get to the big one. If we don’t get to the victories the journey of life is one long stretch of challenges that are pointless really. Challenges exist for two reasons: to help you grow and to get you to victories. If neither of those is happening, what’s the point?
So this week and this spring choose some challenges to accept, challenges that you know will bring you to a quick victory, little or big. Once you’ve learned how you personally work through challenges it becomes a lot easier to accept them and pace yourself so that you achieve victories on a regular basis and in every season of your life. Let this spring be the start of the rest of your life.
Today’s topic is one that most of us struggle with at one point in time or another: confidence. I heard on the radio today that confidence is one of the things that people check for when they meet new people. Do you do a confidence check when you meet someone new? Depending on the type of confidence they have you may feel overwhelmed, impressed, excited or even underwhelmed by them.
The confidence I want to talk about today is really based around people having a lack of confidence. I talked with a consultant this week who had a simple but complete website and seemed like a nice person. When I got him on the phone he didn’t really remember the emails we exchanged, reminded me several times about his lack of professional recognition (licensing/degrees etc.) even after I had already informed him that I wasn’t necessarily looking for anyone like that, didn’t seem confident about his ability to help me and it really put me off to wanting to work with him.
I’m not someone who leads with overwhelming confidence but I do believe in myself and my abilities. If I tell you that I can’t assist you it’s not because I don’t have skills and capabilities, it’s because we’re not a good fit or you need other kinds of assistance than I’m able to or willing to offer. I believe in who I am and what I can do, and won’t try to convince you I can or can’t offer assistance because I don’t fit in a society-approved box.
Confidence isn’t about always being right, being perfect, or having all the answers. Confidence is about believing in yourself, who you are, what you’re capable of doing (even if it’s with the help of others), and believing in being able to make a positive difference on the future. You don’t have to live up to the letter of the world’s law, you can make your own rules. But if you choose to make your own rules and walk your own path, move forward with confidence in your ability to do so, don’t apologize for choosing to be different.
One of the things we struggle with when it comes to health is other people’s definitions of health that we think have to apply to our lives. We think that we have to look like supermodels or fitness buffs. We think that we have to be taking all the top supplements or following the trendy diets. We think that beauty looks like whatever the magazines and social sites say is popular. The reality is that while we probably all could look like those people or follow the current most popular advice, most of us shouldn’t. We’re all created with similar bodies from a very basic appearance perspective, but that’s about where it ends because we all have different food requirements, physical capabilities and tastes which differentiate us from many other people. I don’t do well with a lot of meat, gluten or sugar in my diet, I prefer walks and the elliptical, and don’t really like flashy looks, but you may be the exact opposite.
And that’s more than OK.
The good news is that God says there’s a lot more to life than just how we look, and there’s a lot more to health than it too. No, we shouldn’t be sickly or trash our bodies or appearances, but healthy for each of us is different when it comes down to the details. Health is about looking and feeling good inside and out, in ways that we feel confident and honor the body, mind and life that God has given us.
Just because you don’t eat, look or dress like a superstar doesn’t mean that you’re not an amazing or healthy person. Make the right choices for your life in the food you eat, the daily exercise you get, the clothes you wear and what you feed your mind too.
“But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”” 1 Samuel 16:7
Sometimes it’s hard to see how God will work through your situation or how He’ll help you get out of it. Sometimes there’s an easy answer like to be healed of the illness, but other times it’s not a black and white situation that you face. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that there’s more to life than the pain and sadness that we face whenever we put on the TV or open a newspaper or news site. It’s not easy to be confident in things when the world tells you you’re not good enough or not enough period.
But time and again in the Bible are shared reassurances that it will be OK. It’s clear that we’ve always needed reassurance and encouragement, this isn’t anything new. But now we do have the Bible to turn to and people from around the world who we can connect with who have experienced similar things or are just able to be there for us without judgment.
But back to the Bible, how do we know it will be OK? How did they (the writers) know it would be OK? Did they know something we don’t know? I don’t think they did honestly. Some of them had super deep connections with God, but so do some of us. God did do some really big miracles for the people of Bible times but we can see God in so many little ways every day.
I think part of the difference was in how much faith they had. In many ways we’ve been tainted by our world and all the very evident problems in it thanks to the internet and connectedness of our world. So it’s become much more challenging for us to keep the faith that it will all work out when there’s so much that doesn’t work out.
But I have to agree with them, I do have faith that it will all work out. I have faith that our connectedness will be a tool to build our faith and gives us the strength to believe that God does have a plan for our lives and does have a good future planned for all who believe. Are you confident in the plan God has for your life?
“I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Psalm 17:13-14
This week I’ve been thinking about how well we know people. Some of us are really secretive and don’t like to share anything, others of us seem to share our whole lives with the world. But with the media today how much of what we see is real and how much is marketing, right? Sometimes we’ll think we know someone really well only to find out we really don’t know them at all! And other times we know people so well we can predict their words and actions.
It can be really intimidating to us when people know us. Why? Because when they know us that well they can call us out on our BS and procrastination and bad habits. It’s not fun to be called out on that stuff, even if it is necessary sometimes. So because we fear being called out some of us try to stay away from others as much as possible or build fake relationships. I call them fake not because the people aren’t real, but because you’re not being real with the people.
However, one of the best decisions you can make, one that’s ultimately essential to your health and sanity, is to have at least one person you can be completely honest and open with, without fear of judgement. Personally, I believe that honesty is one of the best policies. If we’re not honest with the people in our lives, soon we won’t be honest with ourselves.
Each day we’ve got a choice whether we’re going to open up to the people in our lives or if we’re going to hide who we are and how unique, special and interesting we are. Don’t be afraid of your quirks or getting close, instead learn how to make the most of the time you have with the people you love.
“I don’t have any fear of intimacy, but rather thrive on it, which is rare in a public person.” Jack Nicholson
What you believe about yourself is one of the greatest indications of how successful you can be. If you believe you can be successful you’ll have the motivation, the focus, the drive and the willingness to do what it will take to accomplish your goals. If you don’t believe you have the abilities, the confidence, the means or are worth being successful you won’t get there. Success means different things to each of us, some of us will find success in a monetary value, others in a family one, and others in making a difference in the world, so the definition of success isn’t what we’ll talk about today, but that I believe you have the ability to be successful, we all do.
Every day I see things in the news that are an unbelievable waste of time, from random crimes and large scale unprovoked violence, to physical abuse and cyber bullying. They’re a waste of time because if life is all about the result that you achieve, the success you achieve, the success you achieve from any of these actions isn’t going to get you more than a passing rush and won’t make the world a better place for future generations. I believe that everyone has something of value they can contribute to the daily workings of the world or to the future world. It’s their choice, it’s your choice, what kind of future is created.
I believe in you. I believe that you have abilities that are needed in the world, whether that’s in raising the next president, discovering a medical breakthrough, creating a business that gives people jobs, or just making someone else smile. We won’t all believe the same thing or agree on everything, that’s the beauty of each of us being different. The one thing we should all agree on is that we each have value and the potential to make an amazing difference in the world. It’s unfortunate that there are so many people around the world who refuse to see or tap into that belief. Take time this weekend to check your beliefs. Are your beliefs holding back your success?
“We are what we believe we are.” CS Lewis