Do you know the best thing about when my partner goes away for a few days for work or with the kids? Doing about 1/3 the dishes I usually have to do! As introverted as I am, I still love him and having him around so of course I don’t actually enjoy when he goes away but there’s still a part of me that gets so excited to be done with dishes in two minutes instead of usually much more time. You can probably identify with the feeling about something your partner does or doesn’t do and you too get a break when they’re away for a day or more too. Doing more dishes doesn’t make me love him less (nor do any of the other things that make him imperfect) because I’m so blessed to have him in my life, but everyone can use a break from stuff and people occasionally.
So often we talk about being tired after taking vacations that we need a vacation from our vacation, so I don’t think the answer to happier people necessarily is to take more vacations. But I do think we can do a better job of stopping more often, stepping away for a bit, simplifying/reducing things for a bit, or having a little alone time than we do or allow ourselves to do. I think we need to let ourselves take a night at a hotel without the kids and our partner, letting the dishes or laundry go a day, making time for that coffee and cookie on the back patio when we could be working on our to-do list, or -horrors!- asking someone to step in a bit more and take some of the work off our plates to give us a break. Yes, sometimes we need a bigger break, but I believe that if we let ourselves have even a tiny bit more down time we’d not be as stressed or need breaks as big as we tend to need right now.
Our lives are richer, fuller, more awesome, more fun, more memorable with the people and things in them that we have in them, but sometimes to realize that we need to take a step back. It’s not something to feel guilty about, but a healthy and necessary part of our lives. So go put your feet up for 10 minutes, take some deep breaths, watch the animals play in your back or front yard, stop and listen to the kids laughing and playing, or count to 10-10 blessings that is, and don’t feel a second’s guilt about it.