Call me naïve but I like to believe in people, including myself. Maybe it’s because, as we’ve all seen at different times, people are capable of great things! So when those people let us down that disappointment stinks doesn’t it? It’s not an emotion we like to feel whether it’s caused by others or ourselves. Disappointment happens when we don’t get the birthday gift we thought we were getting, when we don’t get the promotion at work, when we can’t deliver what the client asked for, when we can’t go away for the weekend like we told the kids we would, when our siblings ate the last of the treat and didn’t share, when others don’t seem to care as much as we do about an issue, when others are so busy focusing on things that don’t seem very important or things that mean they miss the bigger picture and they aren’t willing to make time for us, and when people don’t show up like they told us they would. It’s not always intentional and sometimes there’s a really good reason why we or they disappointed others, but it still hurts.
Maybe the worst part for me is how damaging disappointment is to relationships. Because the more someone lets us down, the more someone disappoints us, the more someone doesn’t show up, the more someone doesn’t follow through, the harder it is to trust that they’ll do something different in the future, regardless of what they say. And the longer we’ve known that person or the closer we are to that person, the more it hurts. And that’s just as true for them when we disappoint them too.
As we work through these last 3 months of 2023, what some people consider “crunch time,” I encourage you to step up and be a person of your word. Yes, definitely when it comes to others and your responsibilities do your best to commit to only things you know you can follow through on and give yourself realistic timelines to do that work. But this is also about your personal life and the victories you’re working to achieve. If your victories really matter to you, which I know they do, it’s damaging to your belief in them and your passion for them to not follow through on working on them, make progress on them and ultimately accomplish them. So maybe the best gift you can give yourself this holiday season is dedicated time to work on your victories so that not only are you making great progress in your life, you also show yourself and others that you follow through on your commitments.